Trust Yourself First: Nassim Ebrahimi
Confidence is not a fixed character trait. It is a math problem. Confidence equals trusting your skills plus owning your role. When one side of that equation dips (and it will, because you are human), you lean harder on the other side to keep the whole structure stable. That is not a mindset hack. That is a system. And for coaches who work with athletes, clients, or anyone in transition, this reframe changes what coaching confidence actually looks like in practice.
"Mental toughness brings mental clarity. If you can keep your physiology, your language, and your focus productive simultaneously, that is a stronger mind."Nassim Ebrahimi · I Love Coaching Podcast
Think about the last time your confidence felt shaky, whether that was before a discovery call, stepping into a new offer, or taking on a client in unfamiliar territory. Ask yourself: was it your skills you doubted, or your role? Once you know which side of the equation dropped, you know exactly which one to lean into. That is the move. Not more preparation. Not more credentials. Just the right side of the equation, applied on purpose.
Show Notes + Resources
What You'll Learn
- Why the first day after a major life pivot is the hardest one, and what to actually do with it
- How Nassim defines mental toughness, and why it has nothing to do with hiding your emotions
- The exact confidence equation she coaches athletes and executives with: Confidence = Trusting Your Skills + Owning Your Role
- Why unshakable confidence is not about staying at a constant high, it is about knowing which variable to lean into when one drops
- How she went from volunteering at her daughter's soccer practice to coaching pro athletes
- What coaches can learn from the way athletes handle adversity, and vice versa
- What Adam means when he says "borrowing confidence" from your coach, and why authentic confidence is the only kind worth borrowing
Key Themes
- Confidence as a system, not a personality trait
- Identity beyond your title: who you are when the role disappears
- Transferable skills and how coaches undervalue what they already carry
- Mental toughness as mental clarity, not emotional suppression
- Authentic confidence vs. borrowed confidence, and why the difference matters for the coaches you serve
Memorable Lines
- "I trusted me. I didn't trust the environment that was unknown, but I knew I could handle whatever it was." -- Nassim Ebrahimi
- "Emotions are not good or bad. They're either productive or unproductive for that moment." -- Nassim Ebrahimi
- "People do not pull the trigger not because of misalignment, because they don't trust themselves." -- Adam Roach
- "It's not because we want to always trust all of our skills. It's unrealistic. Like we are human." -- Nassim Ebrahimi
Resources Mentioned
- The Stronger Mind by Nassim Ebrahimi (signed copies): becomingmystrongerme.com
- Baller Goals by Nassim Ebrahimi (soccer-specific training book)
- Nassim's coaching program for coaches: quarterly cohort, email nasim@becomingmystrongerme.com for next cohort info
- Nassim on Instagram: @strongerme
- ILC Community: ilovecoachingco.com
- Instagram: @ilovecoachingco / @adamrroach / @thejesswebber
- YouTube: youtube.com/@ilovecoachingco
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